Birthday Girl 2018!

Another year, another birthday, another day of celebration of life.  I’m so thankful to be able to celebrate another year and thankful for too much.  They say the secret to having it all is knowing you already do.  I can honestly say I do not need anything and I am thankful for that.  I don’t say this is in an arrogant way but more in a grateful way imperfections and all.  On my birthday, I wanted to share what I have learned thus far on 3 different subjects being love/marriage, friendships, and life.  I think I have figured out certain things at this point in my life but I still pray for continuous growth, knowledge, health, prosperity, and more life.

On love/marriage: I can say it’s not always easy but it’s worth fighting for.  I don’t believe it when they say it shouldn’t be tough.  Yes it shouldn’t be tough all the time but when you think about it, it’s two different people making a life for them selves and there will be differences and challenges but you just have to work at it and like thy say the grass is not always greener on the other side, it’s greener where you water it.  Another thing I’ll leave you with on this is, marry or be with the one who loves you more or at minimum loves you the same.  Yes two people can love each other the same but never end up with someone you feel you love more and this is hard for some to admit to themselves.  They should love you more or you two be at the same level.

On friendships: I believe some people have a natural ”luck” with friendships and some don’t and I for one do not.  When you have that natural luck for it, you do your part as a friend and the friendships flourishes but if you don’t, even when you do your part, sometimes your friendships don’t always flourish and I can say that it’s ok.  I have accepted this and as much as I continue to give my best to friendships I choose to, I don’t have any expectations and when you have no expectations, you are not disappointed. I do think being friends with people whom you are at a similar “level or point” in life is a good start because it reduces envy, jealousy and they just get it more. I’m not saying you can’t be friends with people at different points in life from you, i’m just saying it appears to help the friendship in my observation.   I am a high maintenance friend who gives that much and expects same but now I am learning to not have the expectations and roll with it to the level at which I’m comfortable.

On life: There is so much I have to say about this but I’ll save most for another post.  I do have to say though, you should start by knowing what you want at some point in this life, then ask, believe and you shall receive.  I’m a firm believer in this as long as it’s not what hurts/harms another.  Life can be tough at times but we have to choose happiness, make the conscious effort to be happy, to look at the glass half full instead of half empty.  Also, to understand that there will be some bad days, but they are not permanent for there are good ones too.  And another thing I usually tell my friends is the quote that says something like, if it’s absolutely not working out where you are, move…you are not a tree.  I think this applies to jobs, relationships, certain conditions, etc.  This is all in my humble opinion from my observation.  Please feel free to share thoughts!

About my look being that it’s my birthday, I wanted a dressy look and so I added fishnet tights, a belt, and lady-like bag to this green dress I’d found on sale months ago.  Hope you like it!

Dress- H&M (Similar, Similar), Tights- old (Similar), Belt- Gucci (Here), Bag- Gift (Similar, Similar). Photography by Delilah

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